Tonight I am heading out with two very extraordinary women who I am introducing to 1 another. They are both Gorgeous, in their mid 20s and both incredibly intelligent. 1 is divorced with kids and is most likely 1 of the most flawless and incredibly stunning women I’ve actually met, the other is single and possibly 1 of the most fashionable and forward thinking women I’ve actually met.

1 of these women I’ve been coaching for over a yr, the other is a new client. I thought that they would really appreciate every other because they are both serious about their work, both make a great deal of cash, are very intelligent and they have another couple of things in common.

They FLIRT!

Okay, let me get 1 thing straight. Neither of them HAS to flirt. Men would fall all over either of them just because of their elegance alone. But they both have very outgoing personalities and are charming in addition to becoming intelligent. They also have An additional thing in common.

Women DESPISE THEM.

I know! Can you believe it!? Women detest both of these women because of their elegance and their expertise. Not only do women despise them but they are torturous to them! They talk behind their backs, they spread rumors and they deal with them mean.

CAT Fight, CAT Fight.. I can just listen to all of you men now! Oh Please! I know enough about you men to know that you have envy as well, but you just handle it in a different way.. like attempt to injure every other on the basketball court, or kill every other on the golf program. Okay, perhaps not as a lot, but males are naturally competitive and it drives you harder. You often feel you have control over your destiny since you are often judging yourself on your income.

Women? We get judged on our looks first, and THEN every thing else.

The thing about both of these women is that they are some of the nicest individuals I know. They are enjoyable and lively and intelligent. They are ambitious and they are interesting to talk to. I have loved obtaining to know both of them very a lot and I just know that if women would consider some time to get to know them, they’d appreciate their business. But instead, the women demean on their own by displaying raging jealousy and use up all of their power in a damaging way? instead of becoming productive.

Okay, let me deal with the fact that they flirt. What I’ve counseled at least 1 of the women to do is to be personable and pleasant when work is not the main focus, but when presenting to an audience, especially in a combined group, professionalism is the greatest wager.

1 rule of thumb: Don’t flirt at the workplace. Okay, if you do flirt, then just do not flirt in front of other women. That brings up insecurity in other women. And DON&quotT flirt with another woman’s guy when she’s there. That is the Ultimate &quotno no&quot!

So I have two challenges right here for women. If you are stunning and in company A) Be better than everybody else at your task. Come early, remain late and be committed to your business. If individuals are heading to be talking about you (and they will) at least they won’t be in a position to say that you do not work hard. You know that they will be stating things like that you &quotslept your way to the top&quot and that can be harmful to your reputation. So be the #1 worker in your division and do whatever you can do schooling smart to remain on top.

Next, be a supporter to other women. You are a target for hatred, jealousy and other women’s insecurity. Whatever you can do to pull women together or serving them will help women get over your main issue of elegance. If you are a mom and do not have time to throw networking get &quottogethers&quot, then at least make sure you have a couple of female buddies in your back pocket to commiserate with. I’ve encouraged these women to get on a sports group so they aren’t seen as the &quotpretty and successful&quot ones there. They can be sweating it out searching gross like everybody else.

&quotAlthough I wager these two women do not sweat. They’re as well perfect. You should see them, I wager they never have ANY problems.. I have had to work SO a lot harder than them and I never had anyone coaching me when I was THEIR age. Hmmmmph!&quot

Ooopss!! I guess I even have to catch myself at occasions. I remind myself that we are all on our personal paths and that while elegance and cash may make existence a bit simpler, they can make it a bit much more difficult as well.

And you know I LLLLLLOOOOOOVVVVVVVVVE a challenge!

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Mary Gardner, The Charisma Coach! is an Executive Communications Consultant and Trainer. She works with, coaches and trains people, sales teams, executives, and celebrities. She owned and operated 1 of the first coaching institutions on the east coast, CCI, in NYC, Philly and NJ. Mary has appeared on ABC’s 20/20 and has self published a book on public speaking. Mary is married to Sway and is mommy to Jeremy 5, and lives in Orlando, FL.