With my father, his brother and their father getting had late onset Alzheimer’s I cannot help but wonder if someday it will be my fate. This is what I have informed my family members.

If it is actually me with Alzheimer’s illness make sure you protect me. I don’t want to be lost. I have a horrible fear of actually becoming lost. Maintain me secure from these who would consider advantage of my confusion. Maintain me fed and clear and dry. That getting been said…make sure you don’t try to maintain me at house any lengthier than you can do it with out taking a toll on your lives. If this is my fate let me be in a happy location in my thoughts where you are my infants and I will give you hugs and kisses even if I don’t call you by title.

Let me be a component of your life but don’t surrender your life for mine. I want my husband to have a spouse. I don’t especially want to meet her, but I do want him to maintain living once I no lengthier understand. I want to maintain as a lot dignity as I can for as lengthy as I can and I want these who love me to understand that if I am not myself on the outdoors I am nonetheless me on the inside.

Carry me a puppy to cuddle, house made cookies to eat and soft blankets to cover me. Fill my room with photos of my life so I can appear at them and know I am cherished.

Do not ask me about my life…inform me about my life. Feel totally free to leave out the times I wasn’t at my greatest, or times that carry back again painful memories (deaths of these I cherished). Tell me about the good times.

Deborah Uetz author of Into the Mist, When Someone You Love Has Alzheimer’s Disease